Kadang-kadang especially when I am all alone, I can’t help thinking about the past. I know it’s not good tapi itulah aku, gatal.
Have ever wonder what went wrong when you already give your best?
I know I did, dulu I really feel helpless coz I thought I did everything that I could. Yet when my mind is clearer, those things come to surface.
Ohh patutlah!
I do not claim myself as an expert[haha are you kidding me?] cuma tahap kepatahan hati aku sebelum ni menyebabkan aku over analyse things kot. Ini adalah ditulis bedasarkan pengalaman sendiri dan pengalaman kawan-kawan.
You would do anything for him
You cook for him, clean his room, you send his car to the mechanic. You even drive in the middle of the night just to see him [think about your safety!]
What are you, his mother?
Oh, I have to say some man love women like this, yang menghambakan diri terhadap mereka. Dan aku tau ada perempaun yang rasa they did such a big favour by doing this [akulah salah sorangnye hehe maluu bangang] dan juga berasa mithali, calon isteri terbaik katanya.
Unless you are married [ ini pon kene tengok jugakla] you don’t have to go to that extent to please him.
Why? Because you have to let them know, yes I love you but you see, I still have my own pride, I am not your slave and so do you.
You ask him to pay for everything. I mean everything.
Ok, rule of thumb. Biasalah kalau makan lelaki bayar or tengok movie. Tapi kalau kau nak bayar sekali sekala itu up to you. Cumaaa janganlah setiap kali nak beli kasut, nak beli bag, nak handphone, nak intan permata pon kau nak suruh dia bayar. Apa kau ingat dia your walking ATM Machine?
Tak ke dia rasa bingit semua benda dia nak bayar?
Even if they could afford it, trust me they would respect you more if you could pay for your own things. Be independent tapi janganlah sampai terlalu independent sampai barang die pon kau nak bayar. Hehe
Selalu perempuann akan complaint, lelaki ni asyik nak mengote je, dah habis tu kau tak habis-habis nak pow? Macamana pulak?
You are being too pushy
You force him to do something he doesn’t want to do. Like kau paksa dia kawen dengan kau. Memangla sedih kalau dia tak nak kawen dengan kau but obviously, kalau die mamng mati-mati tak mahu, adela sebabnya kenapa dia tak mahu kan?
Or you force him to teman you to some girly meetings, teman pegi manicure dan sebagainya. Sengal tau tak? Aku yang perempuan ni kalau takde kaitan kene teman mak aku pergi tuppwerware party pun aku dah rasa macam nak mati.
It’s the same to youlah, he force you to do something that you don’t like, contoh, you boleh tak pakai g string, I suke. Tapi kau tak suke sebab terselit je celah bontot, mula-mula okla fine ikut. Tapi lama-lama? Lemasss bontotkuu.
Please note the word force.
You want him for yourself
Whenever he told you he wants to lepak with his friends, you sulk. Dan mulalah segala episod drama. Or maybe you let him but you will call every 15 minutes. Even when he talks on the phone with his friends, kau rasa panas hati.
Come on, he already has his own friends even before he met you. So does that mean that after he met you dia tetibe harus jadi kera sumbang?
And ada certain case, you don’t even really like him to be with his family. When he said “I can’t see you today, parents I datang sinilah,” you went berserk.
Yes, I know if I could I just want him for myself, letak dalam almari, kunci duduk situ tapi dia pun ada kawan-kawan dan nak lepak-lepak macam kita kan?
You push everyone else away
When you have him, you think everybody else don’t matter anymore. Tak pelah kalau tak jumpa kawan pon, takpelah kalau dah lama tak balik kampung pun.
Salah.
Like him, other people adalah penting. It is not healthy for you not to see other people. Dia pun akan muak balik-balik tengok muka kau and lama-lama you will be to dependent on him.
So go out, meet friends.
Maybe by doing that, you guys will have more things to talk about
You never learn
Kalau kau dah jumpa lelaki B yang kau rasa sama perangai dengan ex kau yang kau tak suka lelaki A, why the hell are you still pursuing the relationship?
Take a look around, maybe the is someone yang kau terlepas pandang?
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