Defense mechanism
A friend ask me why is that some women show their hostility, malas nak layan and snobs attitude when being approached be it for the first attempt or not.
The question is, what kind of approach that you use?
Adakah ianya dengan out of no where “Hi saying, buat apa?” or
“A/S/L?” or “Your father must be a thief because he stole the starts and put them in your eyes”<– Series macam gampang ok, aku rasa nak tendang je bila dengan pick up line ni. Ataupon “You ni macam familiarlah “Heh!
Yet sometimes, even a normal approach pon tak membuahkan hasil.
It is like thislah, some women have their own defense mechanism. Not to say that the men approaching has bad intention but they are like cats. Ok, let me tell you about my cat MJ. Walaupun pada pandangan kasar macam takde kaitan but I am sure by the end on this entry you will find the connection.
Pretty baby, she is!
MJ is my sweetheart [ok, this is not relevant but somehow I have the urgency to write it down hehe]. She is one pretty and unusual looking cat ,because of her blue + grey lavender coat. Sometimes she loves to roll on the ground and running aimlessly chasing I-don’t-know-what, she even do it outside when she thought no one was watching. Adorablelah kesayangan ku itu. Overall, MJ looks like a nice, manja, playful cat. But, whenever a stranger approach, wanting to pat her, her ears will start to move, indicating “Who the fuck is this? I don’t know you and I may not like you”. You can ask, how can she not like me when she doesn’t even know me? Exactly! The same answer applies to why should she likes you when she doesn’t even know you, you horrible serabut looking fella who mata besar wants to pat me [ok ni aku add untuk menimbulkan unsur drama hehe]. You don’t know what kind of turmoil she had been through especially with strangers. So rather than straight away wanting to pat her, why not try a different approach. Change that impression.
Memang kucing tak sama dengan manusia, but the reaction is quite similar. And they are women who are totally not interested to make new friends or meet new people. Sebab she doesn’t need anymore new people in her life. Berkawan pon tak nak,unless required to [office and neighbourhoods]. Or just simply, she doesn’t trust strangers.
That friend of my told me he did not understand such thing, the reason for someone not wanting or welcoming new friends.
The thing is these women also don’t understand, why must you keep approaching when she is obviously sending the “not interested” or the “not in the mood” signs.
Ah susah sangat, macam nilah. Dia memang tak naklah, tak berminat. You are not his type. Not interested, your look/car/size or bulge under your jeans or whatever it is, is not appealing to her. She’s taken or doesn’t need another headache/baggage in her life. Other than that, after few attempts, she might mould to whatever you are planning to. Dia memang tak nak, tak naklah! Apa yang susah sangat nak faham ni? Eeee.
And then you goes around saying “ Alah, nak kawan-kawan je”
Yes, yes they know but then again she heard that phrase so much. Kata kawan-kawan lepas tu mulalah kasi hints tapaper. Or worst start talking crap; bra u cup apa? you suka position apa?
Howlah? So it’s better for her than not berkawan. Nak kene cap perempaun eksyen or snobbish pon tak apa asalkan hati and kepala tak serabut.
Like women, MJ will run when you try to pat her even she is unsure of your intention. But, rather than get hurt/smuggled/ eaten [do you know that immigrants or those construction workers eat dogs/puppies nowdays? Uncivilised] she choose to run.
That’s her defense mechanism.
So dah, jangan tanya aku lagi kenapa perempaun tu tak mau respond/accept engkau.
