Value of you

by chics on Sunday, 13 August 2006 - 10 pm · 34 comments

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What’s wrong unmarried malay women? Mengapa masyarakat memandang seronglah? Hello, kalau diorang [kami] tanak kawen pon, bukannnya menyusahkan kau ok. Paling paling pon, mengabiskan beras bapakkkkkkkk diorang.

No. Don’t get me wrong, It’s not that I don’t want to get married. I do but I won’t get married just for the sake of doing it. Main sebat je, janji ade. Dan kemudian berkata “mengapakah aku berkahwin ye?”. I mean, you parents raised you up with penuh kasih sayang, bagi pakai cantik-cantik, makan sedap-sedap, blaja pandai-pandai tapi mengapakah tidak pandai memvalue diri?

The reason I am talking shits is because my babe called me up just now. Now, she’s supposed to get engaged but to melahkan, that guys is sooooo not worth it. That guy, nak kata budak lagi dah besar. Dah nak masuk 40 tahun but his perangai haihh, Now, sape kata maturity goes up with the age. I soo not setuju. Maybe in zaman gila-gila remaja tapi kalau umur dah lebih suku abad tapi perangai macam bofren aku masa 18 tahun apa critela? I mean, she was telling me how she caught her boyfriend sending nasty emails, as in email gatal dan pengote to numerous women. Bini orang ada, budak bawah umur ada, macam-macamla. Tapi memang dia salahla sebab dia bukak emel bofren die kan tapiiiiiiii bofren dia tu pon bangang. Ko kalau ye pon nak main fantasy football pegila tuka player sindri, ni nak suruh awek tukakan. Kalau tak tau main, jangan mainn..baik main bola kertas je. So anyway, since this was not his first time, she confronted him. Of coursela he denied like the previous time but this time, he went ballistic. He wanted to leave her and she was shocked, she wanted to diskas tapi mamat ni emo. Yang paling keji, she begged as if there will be no tomorrow. Dan mamat itupon dengan bangganya berkata

“It’s ok, jangan buat lagi”

WHATHEFUCK?

Memangla my babe tu did something wrong, membaca emel itu but he should apologizes and macam apa yang dia buat tu tak salahla. Oooooooooo…kau ingat ko lelaki ko boleh suka-suka tulis emel ajak pompuan main? I mean, kalau kau tak skolah tinggi or keja tapaper lainla, but you are too educated to value a woman. She begged, itula salahnye. Let me tell you about begging. Begging will make you feel like taik. The stinkiest taik. It not only make you feel helpless but will take away your self esteem. Never ever beg for a worthless guy. Never.

I loathe men who treat women like shit. I hate mean who jerit jerit dekat pompaun as if women have no value and feeling. I hate men who only see women as romen objek. Bila wife/gefren dah sakit, tak boleh layan, kau carik alasanla nak main kat luar. If you commit to get married or already married are you not stay for better and worst?. Aku jugak benci lelaki yang ingat bila dia dah commit die berkuasa mutlak terhadap perempuan. Tak boleh kuar dengan kawan-kawan, tak boleh itu, tak boleh ini. Mari layan aku sahaja, tengkiu. Sebab aku dah habis duit bayar hantaran kau.

And he’s this type, well part of it.

So anyway, my babe asked me “Apala aku nak buat babe? Aku dah nak kawen ok”

Don’t asked me that question when I’m your best friend. Of course I have the possibility to be bias. She told me she can’t leave him coz despite dia pengote and kadang-kadang naik hangin tak pepasal dia pastikan my babe cukup makan and etc. Taik. Habis tu hati kau macamana?But then I told her, I can say lots of things but at the end it’s up to her. Whether she married or not to that guy, I will always be here because et the end of the day it’s her life. Cuma, belum kawen, hari-hari dah berendam air mata. I mean, you should feel happy thinking of marriage bukannya rasa macam celake.

Babe, it just that I think you are more worthy than that. Kau sanggup ke duduk rumah 24 jam sebab bofren kau tak bagi ko jumpa aku? Sekarang pon tak bagi, apakah lagi nanti?I mean, she even let go of pursuing her master coz that guy tak berapa gemar[macam familiar..hmm]. You are beautiful. You are smart. You are funny. You are manja. You deserve a man who treat you the way you treat him.

Don’t be afraid to tell him what you feel. If he decided to leave you you should be sad and mourning for him because he’s a chicken shit who are just afraid to admit the truth and penjantan penakut untuk mengaku kelemahan sendiri. Nobody should own you except God. And you should feel happy because by then..you are more than just beautiful.

Banyak lagi lelaki yang ada dekat luar tu. Kalau takde, takpela. Bukan mati pon takde lelaki. Pegila mati apa orang nak cakap. Maybe kau akan rasa sunyi, tapi apanya gunanya kawan [ko tak miss ke time kite berpoye-poye dulu? Haha].

Aku sayang kau okess. Even hari-hari aku cakap tapi aku cakap sekali lagi. You deserve to be happy.

Bunnies, if you are in her shoes? What would you do?

Apa-apa pon, the moral is, tak kirelah whether u are a girl or a guy, always value yourself. Because if you don’t, no one will.

Happy Monday.

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  • chics

    to all of the commnet – hmm, i wish she read this :(

  • http://ahoklah.co.nr Adam

    I once got to know a girl while swimming in the pool in Pantai Hill park. Became very friendly later (only friends lah). One day I met up with her at the cafe and she ws looking really sad. She told me that she caught her boyfriend sleeping with another girl in his bed and worse, he slapped her when she got into a cat fight with theother girl. I asked her why she was still with the guy. her answer, "I still love him" and she was blaming the other girl. Stupid or what?

  • anon

    totally agree wit u. better off alone than married to a jerk like that guy. tak guna sesen pun. and yes, never beg. jangan sekali-kali. if a person really loves you, knp smpi nak kena merayu for his/her love? bullshit..

  • chics

    to all of the commnet – hmm, i wish she read this :(

  • http://ahoklah.co.nr Adam

    I once got to know a girl while swimming in the pool in Pantai Hill park. Became very friendly later (only friends lah). One day I met up with her at the cafe and she ws looking really sad. She told me that she caught her boyfriend sleeping with another girl in his bed and worse, he slapped her when she got into a cat fight with theother girl. I asked her why she was still with the guy. her answer, “I still love him” and she was blaming the other girl. Stupid or what?

  • anon

    totally agree wit u. better off alone than married to a jerk like that guy. tak guna sesen pun. and yes, never beg. jangan sekali-kali. if a person really loves you, knp smpi nak kena merayu for his/her love? bullshit..

  • suitnsex

    this is what happens when we let feminism and liberalisme and equal rights be left unchecked. that girly has a good man by her side, as evident by all the other girlies trying to side up to her man. now if she knows how to act right, then there wouldnt be any reason for him to even consider looking to others' offers. his only fault is being too lenient on his woman. guy should be raising some fists and put on some choice smacks on her. its all there in the bible, chics. and dont try to ruin another happy couple's marriage you harlot. just cos youre recently engaged doesnt mean you know whats best for other couples.

  • suitnsex

    this is what happens when we let feminism and liberalisme and equal rights be left unchecked. that girly has a good man by her side, as evident by all the other girlies trying to side up to her man. now if she knows how to act right, then there wouldnt be any reason for him to even consider looking to others’ offers. his only fault is being too lenient on his woman. guy should be raising some fists and put on some choice smacks on her. its all there in the bible, chics. and dont try to ruin another happy couple’s marriage you harlot. just cos youre recently engaged doesnt mean you know whats best for other couples.

  • m&m

    tinggalkan jantan kabaret tuh… kumbang bukan seekor..eventhough it hurts.. mind u.. x smesti laki 2 syg kita cam kita syg dia…uwaaaa!!!

  • hanim

    Payahnye jadi orang besaaaaaa. I dowan to grow up.
    Eheh macam tadak kena mengena ja. *runs*

  • http://www.blankdotcom.blogspot.com spilut

    i used to be like her. My life was worst than dat. After i left him mmg mcm orang hilang akal. I lost weight,takleh concentrate on my work. But now eventho its still not cure but i'll survived. Yes, my life is empty now but i dont want to ruin my whole life bcoz of my love for him was to much. Ur friend should listen to ur advise as if not like others said she will suffer more and cant turning back and regret forever.
    Lelaki mcm tu takkan berubah sampai bila2. Dia dah senang dengan dunia dia unless Tuhan tu nak tunjuk smthing supaya dia berubah.

  • dmv

    make her leave the bugger asap before dah terberanak2 sok. he'll use the i'm-the-husband-so-u-WILL-listen-to-me crap before too long, now…

  • waris

    Leave the guy now. Better now then lepas dah kawin and beranak-pinak. Kalau parents tanya, cakap je la terus terang the reason. Takkan depa nak menantu yg mengote kot..

  • reyyna

    haiihhh.. kenapa la lelaki skrg mcm ni ek.. buat sakit jiwa jer. im wondering whyla zaman2 dulu lelaki jarang yg ada spesies mcmni (bukan xde tp kurang sikitla). my paklong and maklong, even dah married for almost 50 years.. still jalan berdua pegang tangan. makan aiskrim sama2… romantik ok.
    lelaki yg baik mmg susah nak cari skrg…
    well whatever it is, that guy akan terima jugak pembalasannya. chics pls advise ur fren tu.. don't marry him for the sake of takut jadi anak dara tua or watsoever.. just leave him rite now !!

  • http://www.matasepet.blogspot.com stoner

    please read 'Why Men Love Bitches'
    aku terjumpa kat Borders arituh. tapi aku x browse la (malu..hahaha)

  • anonymous

    u are rite chic..lelaki yg rase mcm bagus ni patut kene tinggal jeee..

  • Orcalisa

    yeapp! thats right!totally agreed with ya chic!wtf kalo lelaki tu takleh nak terima kite seadanya..not worth it lah,betta stay single and flirting for life!

  • http://indaness.blogspot.com elene

    ala kesiannya kawan ko ni.. mesti tertekan gila. betul dah ape ko cakap tu.. teruskan me-motivate dia ok! cayalahhhhhh.

  • m&m

    tinggalkan jantan kabaret tuh… kumbang bukan seekor..eventhough it hurts.. mind u.. x smesti laki 2 syg kita cam kita syg dia…uwaaaa!!!

  • hanim

    Payahnye jadi orang besaaaaaa. I dowan to grow up.
    Eheh macam tadak kena mengena ja. *runs*

  • http://www.blankdotcom.blogspot.com spilut

    i used to be like her. My life was worst than dat. After i left him mmg mcm orang hilang akal. I lost weight,takleh concentrate on my work. But now eventho its still not cure but i’ll survived. Yes, my life is empty now but i dont want to ruin my whole life bcoz of my love for him was to much. Ur friend should listen to ur advise as if not like others said she will suffer more and cant turning back and regret forever.
    Lelaki mcm tu takkan berubah sampai bila2. Dia dah senang dengan dunia dia unless Tuhan tu nak tunjuk smthing supaya dia berubah.

  • dmv

    make her leave the bugger asap before dah terberanak2 sok. he’ll use the i’m-the-husband-so-u-WILL-listen-to-me crap before too long, now…

  • waris

    Leave the guy now. Better now then lepas dah kawin and beranak-pinak. Kalau parents tanya, cakap je la terus terang the reason. Takkan depa nak menantu yg mengote kot..

  • reyyna

    haiihhh.. kenapa la lelaki skrg mcm ni ek.. buat sakit jiwa jer. im wondering whyla zaman2 dulu lelaki jarang yg ada spesies mcmni (bukan xde tp kurang sikitla). my paklong and maklong, even dah married for almost 50 years.. still jalan berdua pegang tangan. makan aiskrim sama2… romantik ok.
    lelaki yg baik mmg susah nak cari skrg…
    well whatever it is, that guy akan terima jugak pembalasannya. chics pls advise ur fren tu.. don’t marry him for the sake of takut jadi anak dara tua or watsoever.. just leave him rite now !!

  • http://www.matasepet.blogspot.com stoner

    please read ‘Why Men Love Bitches’
    aku terjumpa kat Borders arituh. tapi aku x browse la (malu..hahaha)

  • anonymous

    u are rite chic..lelaki yg rase mcm bagus ni patut kene tinggal jeee..

  • Orcalisa

    yeapp! thats right!totally agreed with ya chic!wtf kalo lelaki tu takleh nak terima kite seadanya..not worth it lah,betta stay single and flirting for life!

  • http://indaness.blogspot.com elene

    ala kesiannya kawan ko ni.. mesti tertekan gila. betul dah ape ko cakap tu.. teruskan me-motivate dia ok! cayalahhhhhh.

  • http://raiedzall.blogspot.com Mr.Gloomy

    tell.. no, make ur babe to leave that bastard while she can…

  • http://bugger.blogs.friendster.com cepol

    Wah topic hangat.
    1. Kalau tak main fantasy football, sila main Subbuteo.
    2. Kepada yang bermasalah, meh sini I kasi advise, tapi over California Pizza okes :)
    3. Whatever it is, a relationship SHOULD always be happy at least most of the time. If its not, then why pursue? If it costs more unhappiness, why go for it?
    4. Kalau baju tu tak cantik, kenapa nak beli, kalau handbag tu skema dan tak stylo dan bermasalah kenapa tengok, hanya disebabkan ianya branded?
    5. Get married for the 'right' reasons, not because 'you have to' if not it would just get worse 'after' you get married.
    My 2 Baht worth

  • http://udaswoop.blogspot.com/ Uda

    Begging de-valued ur dignity…. Even worst for a piece of shit…. Chin up. pompuan atau lelaki, we are still manusia…. Have some dignity…. Apa beza, laki ker, pompuan ker…. Semua mkn nasik apa, badan luka darah sama merah aper…. (to this friend of chics mentioned here, be selfish…. It's ur freekin' life)…. And as for that guy…. what goes around, comes around….
    p.s. It's this kind of 'shithead' that makes all men look bad….

  • http://raiedzall.blogspot.com Mr.Gloomy

    tell.. no, make ur babe to leave that bastard while she can…

  • http://bugger.blogs.friendster.com cepol

    Wah topic hangat.
    1. Kalau tak main fantasy football, sila main Subbuteo.
    2. Kepada yang bermasalah, meh sini I kasi advise, tapi over California Pizza okes :)
    3. Whatever it is, a relationship SHOULD always be happy at least most of the time. If its not, then why pursue? If it costs more unhappiness, why go for it?
    4. Kalau baju tu tak cantik, kenapa nak beli, kalau handbag tu skema dan tak stylo dan bermasalah kenapa tengok, hanya disebabkan ianya branded?
    5. Get married for the ‘right’ reasons, not because ‘you have to’ if not it would just get worse ‘after’ you get married.
    My 2 Baht worth

  • http://udaswoop.blogspot.com/ Uda

    Begging de-valued ur dignity…. Even worst for a piece of shit…. Chin up. pompuan atau lelaki, we are still manusia…. Have some dignity…. Apa beza, laki ker, pompuan ker…. Semua mkn nasik apa, badan luka darah sama merah aper…. (to this friend of chics mentioned here, be selfish…. It’s ur freekin’ life)…. And as for that guy…. what goes around, comes around….
    p.s. It’s this kind of ‘shithead’ that makes all men look bad….




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